I write to celebrate you and your long, long life.
To thank you for the joy you brought and the love you gave for so many years.
To ask your forgiveness.
When you first came to our family, we were elated.
You see, we’d been looking for a little dog because we had a little boy who wanted one so badly. Big dogs frightened him.
But you were perfect.
And so you grew up together.
You weren’t always easy, but you were always, always loved. Despite the countless accidents in the house and that time you snuck a chicken strip off of little Cadillac Man’s plate and ran for all you were worth with your booty. Not to mention how you figured out a way to climb on top of the furniture to get the boys’ Valentine and Easter chocolate. And ate it all, leaving only the wrappers behind. More than once. How did you do it and not get sick?
We began to think, all things considered, that you might be immortal. After all, you outlasted legions of other pets. The boys began to joke about you plotting the demise of every other dog, for they came and went throughout the years, but you remained. No one questioned your alpha status. Not even the dogs seven times your size, when you took their rawhides and their pillows for your own. They just sat, blinking in respectful disbelief, at your Napoleonic powers.
There’s so much to say, for we shared so much together. I am thankful for my special place in your little heart. How, when you were young and strong, you’d jump up on the couch to curl up beside me or to crawl in my lap. For the hours I spent working on the computer and you were snuggled behind me, between my back and the chair. I loved you and your deep, abiding warmth, always near, just being. Just together.
How the boys loved you. How they laughed as we tried to teach you to roll over, to sit and beg, the two tricks you’d pull off multiple times in succession just to get one treat.
How much comfort you gave them when they were hurting, from boyhood to manhood. They held you in their arms, but you, well—you were holding their hearts all along.
Time is no friend, is it, old sweet Nik. Not when it takes your youth so that you can’t jump anymore but have to be picked up and carried. Not when it turns your face and paws so white. Not when it takes your sight, your hearing, even your ability to understand exactly where you are and what’s going on.
Here’s what I marvel over: That you tried to run through the grass like always, even when you couldn’t see. That you could still find me in bathroom getting ready for work each morning. That you never forgot where your treats were, or that you should get one after coming in from outside, even when it had to be broken into small pieces for you to chew. I knew you could only find them by smell; that’s why I put your broken-up treats on the kitchen rug, so you wouldn’t push them all across the floor trying to get them into your mouth.
I marvel over your ever-voracious appetite, how you ran for your bowl every morning, even if we had to guide you just a bit.
And I worried when you started losing weight.
The vet said your blood work was amazing for a dog of your age; never saw the like. Said your heart was strong. Said things like cancer can make a dog lose weight despite plenty of food, and it wouldn’t show in the blood. Gave you the pain medicine which made you sleep but also tore your bowels up so that we couldn’t give it to you anymore.
And still you rallied, although every day you got thinner and thinner.
Cadillac Man watched you staggering and falling in the yard.
Mom, he looks like a skeleton. He’s just going in circles.
Mom, it may be time.
Mom, I just got on the scales with him. He’s under seven pounds.
Three weeks before, you were about nine pounds.
When you were a young dog, you were nearly twenty pounds.
On Saturday, when I gave you your last bath, I could see every vertebra on your back, could feel every knob on your tiny tail. For the first time in your life, you sat in the bathwater, too weak to stand.
When we wrapped you in your “Happiness is a Dachshund” blanket to take you to another vet, I didn’t know it was going to be good-bye.
I thought maybe another medication would help. Or another suggestion. You’d made it so far, so well, until then. The regular vet said your heart was strong, so . . .
The new vet said:
I can’t fix the blindness.
I can’t fix the deafness.
I can’t fix the severe cognitive impairment.
You can run tests to see why he’s losing the weight, but it would only be for academic purposes. Just to know. He’s a very old, weak dog.
Cadillac Man looked at me, holding you in his arms:
Mom, there’s hardly anything left of him.
How to let you go like this, when you’d been so utterly trusting and loving your entire life?
You looked at me with your tired, cloudy eyes, and I wasn’t sure what you were seeing. Maybe me. Maybe not.
I couldn’t know how much pain you felt; you never complained. You just kept going, for it’s all you knew to do.
I loved you. I struggled then, I struggle now with the decision, but I believe the boy—the man—who loved you best knew what was best.
And so we stroked your sweet head when you breathed your last—one tiny sigh, of contentment, of resignation, of release—utterly, utterly peaceful.
And I take comfort where I can find it. When I read about euthanizing suffering pets, when I talk to others who’ve been there, I don’t question the logic. Of course no one wants to watch their beloved endure prolonged suffering. When I think of your ravaged little body, I know you couldn’t bear much more. Your determination, your will, was astounding. That’s where I struggle. That’s why I write. It’s a matter of the spirit, see.
I write to celebrate our long run together. Sixteen years.
I write to thank you for your unconditional love, and to tell you that mine is just as unconditional. I love you still, even now that you’re gone.
I write to thank you for the joy you brought to two young boys for so long. You’re indelibly written on their hearts, as long as they live.
I write to say I’m sorry. For all the times I lost my patience, for the times I could have made more time, for being part of that last, anguishing decision. But if you were going to go, I was going to be there with you, all the way.
And I ask your forgiveness, because the weight is so hard to carry. But old age and sickness are hard to carry, too, aren’t they.
For something so little, you are so mighty, Nik.
I imagine you always will be.